Graduating from high school is huge. Parties are held, presents are given, diplomas are awarded and the future spreads out before you with decisions to be made and challenges to be met.
There will be commencement addresses given and you may not be paying attention to them, but you should. Much wisdom is parted out during those sometimes boring talks. I’d like to give you part of the talk that Doug Marlette gave at a high school commencement in 2005. Don’t know who Doug Marlette is? Are you sure?
You may not recognize the name, but you might have heard of the comic strip Kudzu. Its creator is the artist Doug Marlette, who was tragically killed this month in a car accident. He created the cartoon series Kudzu. Mr. Marlette gave a commencement address to a high school graduating class in Texas in 2005. It’s something I wanted to share with you because I think it has a great deal to say to high school seniors.
Here is an excerpt from his commencement address.
Yes, it’s a bottom-line world out there, boys and girls. Everything — including education — has been commodified. Consequently, we think everything worth knowing is test-able, quantifiable, and measurable.
You’ve grown up in a time when performance is everything … Performance Anxiety is marketed to you in discreet and insidious ways. … Binge drinking, eating disorders and college suicides are all perfection diseases, ways of acting out the impossibility of perfection. Ease up on yourselves. Have some compassion for yourself as well as for others. There’s no such thing as perfection, and life is not a race.
… Read. Reading is active. TV, movies and video are passive. Reading engages your imagination. Video substitutes for your imagination. Reading takes you into life, while television distracts you from life.
Recognize political correctness for what it is: a bureaucratic substitute for thinking. It evolved out of a righteous impulse to rectify historic wrongs — racism, sexism, various forms of bigotry — but it has morphed into a Stalinist means of suppressing free speech. … It is modern-day Phariseeism. Jesus had a colorful phrase for Pharisees, the so-called “experts” of his time: “hypocrites,” “brood of vipers.” He considered virtue a private matter and said, “take heed that ye do not your alms before men, to be seen of them . . . do not sound a trumpet before thee, as the hypocrites do in the streets, that they may have glory of men.”
Be suspicious of experts. … trust your own experience and instincts over the experts. When my high school guidance counselor called me in for my one and only college counseling session – this was before college admission was a growth industry – he asked me what I wanted to do with my life. I told him I wanted to be an artist. I didn’t know what that meant exactly. Art, where I come from, was black velvet Elvises, poker playing dogs, and popsicle stick birdhouses. Culture was something you scraped off the cow’s tongue to check for hoof-and-mouth disease. All I knew was that I wanted to draw pictures for a living. The counselor looked stricken. “Douglas, believe me, when you get to college, artists are a dime a dozen.” Then, looking at my grades, he said, “Why don’t you use your math skills and drafting ability and study architecture?”
I realize now that no responsible high school guidance counselor would ever in good conscience tell some kid, “Sure, go ahead, be an artist, move to New York, live in an attic and starve.” Fortunately, I knew enough to ignore the experts, but I want you to know that manners do matter. So I did nod politely, and said “Yessir,” as I left the guidance counselor’s office.
So whether you wind up blazing your own trail, or stumbling blindly down it as I did, have high standards. Strive for excellence. But don’t condemn yourself when you fall short.
Be competitive, but remember, envy is not competition. The word “competition” derives from the Latin con, which means “with” and petere, which means “to strive.” Competition – to strive together. Competitors are in secret alliance, not to do each other in, but to bring out the best in each other.
Above all, remember: You are not your resume. External measures won’t repair you. Money won’t fix you. Applause, celebrity, no number of victories will do it. The only honor that counts is that which you earn and that which you bestow. Honor yourself.
And despite all I’ve said about the authorities, honor your parents. You will eventually realize that there are no grownups. We are all children in various stages of growing up. … a pretty good definition of maturity is knowing how immature you are. A pretty good definition of sanity is knowing how crazy you are. A pretty good definition of wisdom is knowing how foolish you are.
Have fun, don’t worry, be happy, pick up your towels off the floor, and don’t call directory assistance for numbers you can look up yourself. Congratulations, Class of 2005!